{"id":2038,"date":"2022-02-25T08:09:45","date_gmt":"2022-02-25T07:09:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/chillimag.cz\/?p=2038"},"modified":"2024-03-26T22:50:49","modified_gmt":"2024-03-26T21:50:49","slug":"jak-na-detsky-plac-netisknete-ho-za-kazdou-cenu-zkuste-asistovane-vymachani","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/chillimag.cz\/?p=2038","title":{"rendered":"Jak na d\u011btsk\u00fd pl\u00e1\u010d? Netiskn\u011bte ho za ka\u017edou cenu. Zkuste asistovan\u00e9 vym\u00e1ch\u00e1n\u00ed"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Ka\u017ed\u00e9 zdrav\u00e9 d\u00edt\u011b pl\u00e1\u010de. To je dobr\u00e1 zpr\u00e1va pro rodi\u010de, kte\u0159\u00ed jsou psychicky vy\u010derpan\u00ed, proto\u017ee je mal\u00e9 dok\u00e1\u017ee denn\u011b proplakat cel\u00e9 hodiny.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ti\u0161it nebo neti\u0161it d\u011btsk\u00fd pl\u00e1\u010d? Rodi\u010de lze rozd\u011blit na dv\u011b skupiny podle toho, jak k pl\u00e1\u010di p\u0159istupuj\u00ed. Ti prvn\u00ed si d\u00edt\u011b v takovou chv\u00edli moc nev\u0161\u00edmaj\u00ed, raz\u00ed heslo, \u017ee je t\u0159eba ho nechat vyplakat, aby si \u201eprocvi\u010dilo pl\u00edce\u201c a nau\u010dilo se, \u017ee \u201erodi\u010de nebudou sk\u00e1kat, jak d\u011bcko p\u00edsk\u00e1\u201c. Tento v\u00fdchovn\u00fd p\u0159\u00edstup se ji\u017e dnes pova\u017euje za p\u0159ekonan\u00fd a \u0161kod\u00edc\u00ed zdrav\u00e9mu d\u011btsk\u00e9mu v\u00fdvinu, p\u0159esto se s n\u00edm v\u0161ak je\u0161t\u011b lze setkat. Rodi\u010de z druh\u00e9 skupiny by d\u00edt\u011b nikdy vyplakat nenechali a sna\u017e\u00ed se v\u0161emi mo\u017en\u00fdmi prost\u0159edky s pl\u00e1\u010dem bojovat. Ukazuje se v\u0161ak, \u017ee nejlep\u0161\u00ed je zlat\u00e1 st\u0159edn\u00ed cesta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201eRodi\u010de, kte\u0159\u00ed maj\u00ed tendenci d\u00edt\u011b st\u00e1le ti\u0161it a v pl\u00e1\u010di mu br\u00e1n\u00ed \u2013 \u010dasto v pozad\u00ed stoj\u00ed, \u017ee d\u011btsk\u00fd pl\u00e1\u010d nesnesou \u2013 mu vlastn\u011b nedop\u0159ej\u00ed emo\u010dn\u00ed uvoln\u011bn\u00ed. Pl\u00e1\u010d je toti\u017e pro nejmen\u0161\u00ed d\u011bti velmi d\u016fle\u017eit\u00fdm komunika\u010dn\u00edm prost\u0159edkem,\u201c \u0159\u00edk\u00e1 psychoterapeutka Eva Labusov\u00e1 (jej\u00ed \u010dl\u00e1nky k r\u016fzn\u00fdm aspekt\u016fm rodi\u010dovstv\u00ed naleznete na webov\u00e9 str\u00e1nce www.evalabusova.cz).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dobrou reakci na d\u011btsk\u00fd pl\u00e1\u010d je podle n\u00ed \u201easistovan\u00e9 vym\u00e1ch\u00e1n\u00ed\u201c, kter\u00e9 m\u016f\u017ee na d\u00edt\u011b p\u016fsobit t\u00e9m\u011b\u0159 z\u00e1zra\u010dn\u011b \u201eJak takov\u00e9 vym\u00e1ch\u00e1n\u00ed vypad\u00e1? Dr\u017e\u00edme pl\u00e1\u010d\u00edc\u00ed d\u00edt\u011b v n\u00e1ru\u010d\u00ed a soust\u0159ed\u00edme se na to, abychom mu k vypl\u00e1k\u00e1n\u00ed dali prostor a podporu. Uklid\u0148uj\u00edce p\u0159itom \u0159\u00edk\u00e1me: Jen se vypla\u010d, jsem tady s tebou. Nev\u00edm p\u0159esn\u011b, pro\u010d pl\u00e1\u010de\u0161, ale chci ti b\u00fdt nabl\u00edzku a po\u010dk\u00e1m, a\u017e se vypl\u00e1\u010de\u0161\u2026 Houp\u00e1me, hlad\u00edme. St\u00e1v\u00e1 se, \u017ee kdy\u017e d\u00edt\u011b poprv\u00e9 dostane tuto mo\u017enost, pl\u00e1\u010de intenzivn\u00ed a dost dlouho, nap\u0159\u00edklad dvacet minut. Potom obvykle tvrd\u011b usne a bud\u00ed se s dobrou n\u00e1ladou,\u201c popisuje Eva Labusov\u00e1.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pokud rodi\u010de d\u00edt\u011bti emo\u010dn\u00ed uvoln\u011bn\u00ed nedop\u0159ej\u00ed, d\u016fsledkem je \u010dasto to, \u017ee \u0161patn\u011b us\u00edn\u00e1 a noci se bud\u00ed. Kdy\u017e tento postup podle n\u00ed za\u010dnete opakovat, z\u00e1chvaty pl\u00e1\u010de se za\u010dnou zkracovat a bude p\u0159ib\u00fdvat klidn\u00e9ho sp\u00e1nku.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P\u0159\u00ed\u010dinou je nap\u011bt\u00ed, pl\u00e1\u010dem se ho d\u00edt\u011b zbav\u00ed
Kdy\u017e d\u00edt\u011b intenzivn\u00ed pl\u00e1\u010de, rodi\u010de cht\u011bj\u00ed obvykle zjistit p\u0159esnou p\u0159\u00ed\u010dinu. D\u016fvod\u016f m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt mnoho. Hlad, zdravotn\u00ed probl\u00e9my (bolest b\u0159\u00ed\u0161ka, ou\u0161ka, pocit celkov\u00e9 nepohody), ale moc \u010dasto se na \u017e\u00e1dn\u00fd d\u016fvod nep\u0159ijde. M\u016f\u017eete d\u00edt\u011b nakrmit, p\u0159ebalit \u010di mu pomas\u00edrovat b\u0159\u00ed\u0161ko, pl\u00e1\u010de v\u0161ak d\u00e1l. \u010castou p\u0159\u00ed\u010dinou d\u011btsk\u00e9ho pl\u00e1\u010de je toti\u017e stres a nap\u011bt\u00ed. Mo\u017en\u00e1 jste si v\u0161imli, \u017ee va\u0161e d\u00edt\u011b za\u010dne plakat ve\u010der p\u0159ibli\u017en\u011b ve stejnou dobu. Chce tak ze sebe dost nap\u011bt\u00ed z cel\u00e9ho dne. Ve\u010der toho m\u00e1me dost i my dosp\u011bl\u00ed, jsme unaven\u00ed a nerv\u00f3zn\u00ed po n\u00e1ro\u010dn\u00e9m dni. Pro mal\u00e9 d\u011bti m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt pr\u00e1v\u011b pl\u00e1\u010d cestou, jak ze sebe nahromad\u011bn\u00fd stres vyplavit. Pokud mu rodi\u010de v pl\u00e1\u010di br\u00e1n\u00ed, p\u016fsob\u00ed to kontraproduktivn\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pl\u00e1\u010d je pro lidsk\u00fd organismus velmi efektivn\u00ed zp\u016fsob, jak si udr\u017eet psychickou rovnov\u00e1hu, zbavit se nap\u011bt\u00ed a uvolnit se. Pokud d\u00edt\u011bti, ale tak\u00e9 sob\u011b dovol\u00edte plakat, star\u00e1te se vlastn\u011b o jeho i sv\u00e9 zdrav\u00ed. D\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 je p\u0159estat vn\u00edmat d\u011btsk\u00fd pl\u00e1\u010d negativn\u011b, ale jako p\u0159irozenou a dokonce \u017e\u00e1douc\u00ed sou\u010d\u00e1st \u017eivota d\u00edt\u011bte.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pro\u010d maj\u00ed rodi\u010de s pl\u00e1\u010dem takov\u00fd probl\u00e9m?
Mnoz\u00ed rodi\u010de p\u0159izn\u00e1vaj\u00ed, \u017ee podpo\u0159it pla\u010d\u00edc\u00ed d\u00edt\u011b nedok\u00e1\u017eou tak, aby si p\u0159\u00e1li. A to kv\u016fli vlastn\u00edm nezvl\u00e1dnut\u00fdm negativn\u00edm pocit\u016fm, kter\u00e9 v tu chv\u00edli maj\u00ed. Kdy\u017e jsou v bl\u00edzkosti pla\u010d\u00edc\u00edho miminka, sami v takov\u00fdch chv\u00edl\u00edch c\u00edt\u00ed silnou \u00fazkost, hn\u011bv nebo agresi a reaguj\u00ed na pl\u00e1\u010d panikou nebo hn\u011bvem, co\u017e je pozd\u011bji obvykle mrz\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201eV rodinn\u00fdch poradn\u00e1ch a psychoterapeutick\u00fdch ordinac\u00edch opakovan\u011b vych\u00e1z\u00ed najevo, kolik z v\u011bc\u00ed, kter\u00e9 n\u00e1s jako dosp\u011bl\u00e9 rozru\u0161uj\u00ed, sm\u011b\u0159uje zp\u011btnou stopou k nep\u0159\u00edjemn\u00fdm z\u00e1\u017eitk\u016fm \u010di dokonce traumat\u016fm z na\u0161eho vlastn\u00edho d\u011btstv\u00ed. M\u016f\u017ee se to t\u00fdkat pr\u00e1v\u011b i zp\u016fsobu, jak\u00fdm na\u0161i opatrovn\u00edci reagovali na n\u00e1\u0161 pl\u00e1\u010d a vzdor. Nen\u00ed bez zaj\u00edmavosti, \u017ee v terapi\u00edch hraje pl\u00e1\u010d kl\u00ed\u010dovou roli a \u010d\u00edm v\u00edce si klient dovol\u00ed plakat, t\u00edm rychleji se obvykle hoj\u00ed,\u201c uv\u00e1d\u00ed Eva Labusov\u00e1.<\/p>\n\n\n

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Podle n\u00ed je d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 zm\u011bnit v na\u0161\u00ed spole\u010dnosti p\u0159\u00edstup k pl\u00e1\u010di. Spole\u010dnost s n\u00edm toti\u017e m\u00e1 historicky velk\u00fd probl\u00e9m. M\u00e1me pot\u00ed\u017ee projevit slabost i smutek, nedok\u00e1\u017eeme pro\u017e\u00edvat siln\u00e9 \u010di negativn\u00ed emoce. Postoj k pl\u00e1\u010di se v\u0161ak u\u017e za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1 m\u011bnit, a to v d\u016fsledku nov\u00fdch v\u011bdeck\u00fdch poznatk\u016f, kter\u00e9 ukazuj\u00ed, co se d\u011bje v nezral\u00e9m mozku d\u00edt\u011bte p\u0159i pro\u017e\u00edv\u00e1n\u00ed konkr\u00e9tn\u00edch situac\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dnes u\u017e nen\u00ed pochyb o tom, \u017ee pokud rodi\u010de pla\u010d\u00edc\u00ed d\u00edt\u011b zcela ignoruj\u00ed, vyvol\u00e1v\u00e1 to v n\u011bm prudkou reakci. \u201eNejd\u0159\u00edv na fyzick\u00e9 \u00farovni. Doch\u00e1z\u00ed k vyplavov\u00e1n\u00ed stresov\u00fdch hormon\u016f a ke zvy\u0161ov\u00e1n\u00ed srde\u010dn\u00ed \u010dinnosti i t\u011blesn\u00e9 teploty. Pokud d\u00edt\u011b pl\u00e1\u010dem vol\u00e1 po bl\u00edzkosti nejbli\u017e\u0161\u00edch osob, po m\u00e1m\u011b, jeho fyzick\u00e1 reakce na osam\u011blost se pozd\u011bji transformuje do reakce emocion\u00e1ln\u00ed. Po \u010dase sice plakat p\u0159estane, ale pravda je takov\u00e1, \u017ee jen rezignovalo,\u201c uv\u00e1d\u00ed Eva Labusov\u00e1.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Redakce rad\u00ed: Vyzkou\u0161ejte dal\u0161\u00ed vychyt\u00e1vky, kter\u00e9 V\u00e1m pomohou s p\u00e9\u010di o d\u011bti<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Ka\u017ed\u00e9 zdrav\u00e9 d\u00edt\u011b pl\u00e1\u010de. To je dobr\u00e1 zpr\u00e1va pro rodi\u010de, kte\u0159\u00ed jsou psychicky vy\u010derpan\u00ed, proto\u017ee je mal\u00e9 dok\u00e1\u017ee denn\u011b proplakat cel\u00e9 hodiny. Ti\u0161it nebo neti\u0161it d\u011btsk\u00fd pl\u00e1\u010d? Rodi\u010de lze rozd\u011blit na dv\u011b skupiny podle toho, jak k pl\u00e1\u010di p\u0159istupuj\u00ed. Ti prvn\u00ed si d\u00edt\u011b v takovou chv\u00edli moc nev\u0161\u00edmaj\u00ed, raz\u00ed heslo, \u017ee je t\u0159eba ho nechat […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":2039,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"tdm_status":"","tdm_grid_status":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[12],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2038","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-bydleni"],"amp_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/chillimag.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2038","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/chillimag.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/chillimag.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/chillimag.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/chillimag.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=2038"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/chillimag.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2038\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/chillimag.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/2039"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/chillimag.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=2038"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/chillimag.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=2038"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/chillimag.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=2038"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}