{"id":2098,"date":"2022-02-25T08:33:21","date_gmt":"2022-02-25T07:33:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/chillimag.cz\/?p=2098"},"modified":"2022-02-25T08:33:22","modified_gmt":"2022-02-25T07:33:22","slug":"jaky-typ-rodice-jste-pozor-na-techto-pet","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/chillimag.cz\/?p=2098","title":{"rendered":"Jak\u00fd typ rodi\u010de jste? Pozor na t\u011bchto p\u011bt"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Jak\u00fd typ rodi\u010de jste? Laskav\u00fd, ch\u00e1paj\u00edc\u00ed, p\u0159\u00edsn\u00fd, benevolentn\u00ed? Extr\u00e9m nen\u00ed nikdy dobr\u00fd, \u010deho\u017e se v\u0161ak ur\u010dit\u011b vyvarujte, je t\u011bchto p\u011bt extr\u00e9mn\u00edch styl\u016f rodi\u010dovstv\u00ed. D\u011btem \u0161koda, v \u010dem a pro\u010d, vysv\u011btluje Nancy van Peltov\u00e1 v knize Jak b\u00fdt skv\u011bl\u00fdm rodi\u010dem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jednotnost a spr\u00e1vn\u00e1 kombinace l\u00e1sky a kontroly, to je to nejlep\u0161\u00ed, co mohou rodi\u010de d\u011btem poskytnout. Foto: shutterstock.com<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Odbornice na rodinn\u00e9 vztahy zd\u016fraz\u0148uje, \u017ee z\u00e1kladn\u00edm c\u00edlem v\u00fdchovy nen\u00ed v\u00e9st d\u00edt\u011b ke slep\u00e9 poslu\u0161nosti, ale k sebeovl\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00ed a respektu. A ovl\u00e1dat se m\u016f\u017ee nau\u010dit jen tehdy, m\u00e1-li p\u0159im\u011b\u0159enou sebe\u00factu a sebev\u011bdom\u00ed. \u201eD\u00edt\u011bti neubl\u00ed\u017e\u00ed, kdy\u017e od n\u011bho budete cht\u00edt, aby jednalo jinak, m\u016f\u017ee-li sv\u00e9 jedn\u00e1n\u00ed zm\u011bnit. Ale je hrozn\u00e9 \u00fato\u010dit na jeho sebe\u00factu, proto\u017ee jin\u00fdm \u010dlov\u011bkem se st\u00e1t nem\u016f\u017ee,\u201c zd\u016fraz\u0148uje.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

D\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 je pro rodi\u010de, aby ve vztahu k d\u00edt\u011bti udr\u017eovali v rovnov\u00e1ze l\u00e1sku a kontrolu. To nedos\u00e1hne nikdo, kdo je:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Autoritativn\u00ed rodi\u010d
P\u0159\u00edkazy a z\u00e1kazy d\u00edt\u011b nenau\u010d\u00edte, jak se chovat. Naopak. D\u011bti, kter\u00e9 \u017eij\u00ed v rodin\u011b pod p\u0159\u00edsnou v\u00fdchovou a neust\u00e1lou kontrolou, jsou podle Nancy van Peltov\u00e9 \u010dasto h\u00e1dav\u00e9, roztr\u017eit\u00e9 a nerv\u00f3zn\u00ed. \u201eProto\u017ee jsou neust\u00e1le vedeny, nenau\u010d\u00ed se nikdy samostatn\u011b rozhodovat,\u201c dod\u00e1v\u00e1.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

M\u00edrn\u00fd rodi\u010d
\u201eZde vl\u00e1dne d\u00edt\u011b a rodi\u010de jsou p\u0159ipraveni plnit jeho p\u0159\u00e1n\u00ed,\u201c p\u0159ibli\u017euje odbornice. Probl\u00e9my se sebeovl\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00edm a poslu\u0161nost\u00ed mohou dosp\u011bt a\u017e k tomu, \u017ee d\u00edt\u011b za\u010dne rodi\u010di pohrdat. \u201eNemaj\u00ed natolik pevn\u00fd charakter, aby byli schopni u\u010dinit mor\u00e1ln\u00ed rozhodnut\u00ed, pot\u0159ebn\u00e1 pro ka\u017edodenn\u00ed \u017eivot,\u201c vysv\u011btluje Nancy. D\u00edt\u011bti zkr\u00e1tka neprosp\u011bjeme, pokud ho nech\u00e1me v\u017edy d\u011blat jen to, co se mu l\u00edb\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nemiluj\u00edc\u00ed rodi\u010d
Pokud rodi\u010de neum\u00ed projevit nebo neprojevuj\u00ed l\u00e1sku, je to stejn\u011b \u0161patn\u00e9, jako kdy\u017e d\u00edt\u011bti ned\u00e1vaj\u00ed j\u00edst. \u201eEmocion\u00e1ln\u00ed hladov\u011bn\u00ed je stejn\u011b nebezpe\u010dn\u00e9 jako t\u011blesn\u00e9,\u201c \u0159\u00edk\u00e1 Nancy van Peltov\u00e1. Jedn\u00e1 se o celou \u0161k\u00e1lu negativn\u00edho p\u0159\u00edstupu k d\u00edt\u011bti \u2013 od t\u00fdr\u00e1n\u00ed a\u017e po nad\u00e1vky, kritiku, tresty, pokud si rodi\u010de v\u0161\u00edmaj\u00ed jen proh\u0159e\u0161k\u016f, maj\u00ed na d\u00edt\u011b vysok\u00e9 n\u00e1roky nebo ho srovn\u00e1vaj\u00ed s ostatn\u00edmi. Tak\u017ee \u2013 ned\u011blejte to!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Majetnick\u00fd rodi\u010d
Mysl\u00ed to mo\u017en\u00e1 dob\u0159e, nedaj\u00ed se v\u0161ak d\u00edt\u011bti nadechnout \u010di samostatn\u011b jednat. Neust\u00e1le se ho sna\u017e\u00ed v\u00e9st, pom\u00e1hat mu, dr\u017eet v bezpe\u010d\u00ed, mimo riziko. D\u00edt\u011b se v\u0161ak nenau\u010d\u00ed samostatn\u011b rozhodovat ani jednat. \u201eNem\u00e1 smysl cht\u00edt d\u00edt\u011b uchr\u00e1nit p\u0159ed \u017eivotem, je t\u0159eba ho na n\u011bj p\u0159ipravit, aby m\u011blo s\u00edlu a odvahu v n\u011bm obst\u00e1t,\u201c prozrazuje \u0159e\u0161en\u00ed Nancy van Peltov\u00e1.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Nejednotn\u00ed rodi\u010de
Kdy\u017e jeden k\u00e1\u017ee to, druh\u00fd ono. Pokud se rodi\u010de neum\u00ed shodnout na p\u0159\u00edstupu k d\u00edt\u011bti, vznik\u00e1 probl\u00e9m. \u201eJe t\u011b\u017ek\u00e9 ustoupit, kdy\u017e c\u00edt\u00edte, \u017ee v\u00e1\u0161 partner jako rodi\u010d nezvl\u00e1dl situaci spr\u00e1vn\u011b. Je to ov\u0161em v\u017edy lep\u0161\u00ed ne\u017e aby bylo va\u0161e d\u00edt\u011b sv\u011bdkem toho, jak se h\u00e1d\u00e1te,\u201c p\u0159ipom\u00edn\u00e1 odbornice. Rodi\u010de by si nikdy nem\u011bli podle n\u00ed vyjas\u0148ovat neshody ve v\u00fdchov\u011b p\u0159ed d\u00edt\u011btem. \u201eD\u00edt\u011b se velmi rychle nau\u010d\u00ed, jak na koho reagovat a p\u0159izp\u016fsob\u00ed tomu sv\u00e9 jedn\u00e1n\u00ed,\u201c varuje. Rodi\u010de bude respektovat jen tehdy, bude-li c\u00edtit jistotu, \u017ee jsou v dan\u00e9 v\u011bci jednotn\u00ed.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Jak\u00fd typ rodi\u010de jste? Laskav\u00fd, ch\u00e1paj\u00edc\u00ed, p\u0159\u00edsn\u00fd, benevolentn\u00ed? Extr\u00e9m nen\u00ed nikdy dobr\u00fd, \u010deho\u017e se v\u0161ak ur\u010dit\u011b vyvarujte, je t\u011bchto p\u011bt extr\u00e9mn\u00edch styl\u016f rodi\u010dovstv\u00ed. D\u011btem \u0161koda, v \u010dem a pro\u010d, vysv\u011btluje Nancy van Peltov\u00e1 v knize Jak b\u00fdt skv\u011bl\u00fdm rodi\u010dem. Jednotnost a spr\u00e1vn\u00e1 kombinace l\u00e1sky a kontroly, to je to nejlep\u0161\u00ed, co mohou rodi\u010de d\u011btem poskytnout. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":2096,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"tdm_status":"","tdm_grid_status":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[155],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2098","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-zajimavosti"],"amp_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/chillimag.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2098","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/chillimag.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/chillimag.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/chillimag.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/chillimag.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=2098"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/chillimag.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2098\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/chillimag.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/2096"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/chillimag.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=2098"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/chillimag.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=2098"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/chillimag.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=2098"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}